No One's Anger Starts at 100 [E196]
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Key Discussion Points:
Two Types of Angry People
- Explosive: Outwardly aggressive (e.g., yelling at a cashier).
- Implosive: Bottled-up anger that can lead to extreme reactions (e.g., the quiet cashier who "snaps").
No One Starts at 100% Anger
- Anger escalates in stages—people don’t go from 0 to 100 instantly.
- Triggers (work stress, home life, past trauma) compound over time.
Personal Reflection: Parenting & ADHD
- Matt shares struggles with his son’s ADHD and his own reactive anger.
- Realization: Frustration often stemmed from unrealistic expectations, not the child’s behavior.
- Lesson: Awareness is key—but applying knowledge is harder than reciting it.
Handling Anger in the Workplace
- For Leaders/Co-workers:
- Approach outbursts with curiosity, not defensiveness.
- Validate feelings without justifying bad behavior.
- Ask: "What else is going on?" (e.g., home stress, financial fears).
- For Customers:
- High-conflict clients may already be at "50%" before they walk in.
- Respond with calm energy, active listening, and empathy.
- Example: "I understand why you’re scared. It’s hard to trust when you’re unsure."
De-escalation Tactics
- Mirroring: Match the energy level you want (e.g., stay calm to diffuse rage).
- Validation: Acknowledge emotions without agreeing to unreasonable demands.
- Safety First: Remove yourself or others if the situation escalates dangerously.
Why This Matters in the Aftermarket
- Most customer outbursts are rooted in fear (e.g., being ripped off, losing control).
- A thoughtful response can turn a raging customer into a loyal one—or reveal irreconcilable differences.
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