Shame with Margaret Light [E103]

Shame vs. Guilt: Margaret Light explains the difference between these two often confused emotions. Guilt is about feeling bad for doing something wrong, while shame is about feeling like a bad person. Guilt can motivate change, but shame can lead to negative self-critical thoughts and harm relationships.

Show Notes

• The difference between shame and guilt (00:01:30) 
• Personal experience with shame (00:03:28)
• Challenging negative beliefs (00:06:22) 
• Shame and Guilt (00:08:18) Discussion on the difference between shame and guilt, and how shame affects individuals in their day-to-day lives.
• Childhood Experiences of Shame (00:09:23) 
• Sharing and Naming Shame (00:12:15) 
• Recognizing and Understanding Shame (00:15:34)
• Dealing with Shame and Self-Compassion (00:18:38) 
• Leaning into Shame and Seeking External Validation (00:21:31) 
• The impact of shame on individuals (00:25:55) 
• Creating a shame-filled environment (00:26:16)
• The connection between self-talk and how we treat others (00:27:30) 
• Shame and Substance Use (00:31:00) 
• The Shame Spiral (00:32:22) 
• Window of Tolerance and Coping Strategies (00:34:19) 
• Regulating Your System (00:38:45) 
• Regulating Others (00:40:55)
• Guilt vs. Shame (00:44:27) 
• Recognizing and not internalizing feedback (00:48:14)
• Healthy guilt vs shame in a professional setting (00:51:07) 
• The importance of relationships with clients (00:53:57) 
• The fascination with understanding human behavior (00:55:00)

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