Episode 103

Shame with Margaret Light [E103]

Shame vs. Guilt: Margaret Light explains the difference between these two often confused emotions. Guilt is about feeling bad for doing something wrong, while shame is about feeling like a bad person. Guilt can motivate change, but shame can lead to negative self-critical thoughts and harm relationships.

Show Notes

  • The difference between shame and guilt (00:01:30
  • Personal experience with shame (00:03:28)
  • Challenging negative beliefs (00:06:22
  • Shame and Guilt (00:08:18) Discussion on the difference between shame and guilt, and how shame affects individuals in their day-to-day lives.
  • Childhood Experiences of Shame (00:09:23
  • Sharing and Naming Shame (00:12:15
  • Recognizing and Understanding Shame (00:15:34)
  • Dealing with Shame and Self-Compassion (00:18:38
  • Leaning into Shame and Seeking External Validation (00:21:31
  • The impact of shame on individuals (00:25:55
  • Creating a shame-filled environment (00:26:16)
  • The connection between self-talk and how we treat others (00:27:30
  • Shame and Substance Use (00:31:00
  • The Shame Spiral (00:32:22
  • Window of Tolerance and Coping Strategies (00:34:19
  • Regulating Your System (00:38:45
  • Regulating Others (00:40:55)
  • Guilt vs. Shame (00:44:27
  • Recognizing and not internalizing feedback (00:48:14)
  • Healthy guilt vs shame in a professional setting (00:51:07
  • The importance of relationships with clients (00:53:57
  • The fascination with understanding human behavior (00:55:00)

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Matt Fanslow

Matt Fanslow is the diagnostic tech/shop manager at Riverside Automotive in Red Wing, MN. His primary responsibilities are to diagnose driveability and electrical/electronic issues, and perform most all programming, coding, initializing, adoptions, etc. Basically, if it needs to be figured out or has wires, it goes to Matt.

He’s been a tech since 1996. Matt is also a subject matter expert for ASE and has instructed at Vision Hi-Tech Training and Expo. Matt has participated on 18 ASE technical committees for the ASE Practice Test, A6, A7, A8, and L1 tests. He’s also done case studies for Standard Motor Products. Fanslow’s goal is to do everything in his power to improve the overall level of professionalism within the automotive and light truck repair trade and also raise the level of its public image.