Episode 58

Relationships 101 with Margaret Light

  • 41% of first marriages end in divorce, 60% of second marriages end in divorce, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce.
  • Up to 70% of divorces are initiated by the wife, and when in a couple, the wife is college educated, that number drops and jumps to up to 90% of divorces initiated by the wife.
  • Who regrets a divorce after it happens? 39% of men regret a divorce compared to only 27% of women.
  • Most couples are waiting too long to seek some type of help with their marriage.
  • Divorce men are 2.5 times more likely than married men to commit suicide and 8 times more likely to commit suicide than divorced women.
  • 66% of men name their wives as their primary social support, 21% name friends, and 10% say they have no one at all.
  • 4 communication patterns that tend to lead to divorce- eye rolls are a symptom of contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling
  • The first 3 minutes of a conversation dictate the rest of the conversation, how well or how poorly that goes.
  • Couples in unhappy relationships spend all their time looking at the other person and not enough time looking at themselves.
  • You have two different people in a relationship with two different sets of thoughts and feelings, and needs. It is possible for one person in that relationship to feel good about the relationship and think everything's okay or good enough, and it is possible for the other person to be downright miserable.
  • Imagine the most recent fight you had with your spouse or negative interaction- if you remove yourself from that scenario and were to put someone else in your place, and it was like you were watching a movie, how would you feel towards that person who's playing you? Would you like what you see? Could you stand by those actions? What are the parts of what they're saying that are true?

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Matt Fanslow

Matt Fanslow is the diagnostic tech/shop manager at Riverside Automotive in Red Wing, MN. His primary responsibilities are to diagnose driveability and electrical/electronic issues, and perform most all programming, coding, initializing, adoptions, etc. Basically, if it needs to be figured out or has wires, it goes to Matt.

He’s been a tech since 1996. Matt is also a subject matter expert for ASE and has instructed at Vision Hi-Tech Training and Expo. Matt has participated on 18 ASE technical committees for the ASE Practice Test, A6, A7, A8, and L1 tests. He’s also done case studies for Standard Motor Products. Fanslow’s goal is to do everything in his power to improve the overall level of professionalism within the automotive and light truck repair trade and also raise the level of its public image.